Live Your Life…Like a BOSS!!!

We all want a fabulous life, right? I know I do and I can guess that you do too. You have everything you need to make it happen. You have a unique gift that you were born to share with the world and when you do, amazing things will come to you! I truly believe that. It wasn’t an accident that you were put here at this specific time, in this specific place. There will never be another you and if you don’t share what you have to give, listen now, this is important- you are STEALING from those who need you the most. Ya heard!?

STEALING!!!

So let’s all start living life with and on purpose! And doing our thang…like a BOSS!

This little kiddo says it best. If you get nothing from this post, just watch this video. It will make your day. I think it made my life.

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The One Thing I Swore I would Never EVER Do…and Why I’m Glad I Did It!

Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” Alan Alda

“Books and minds only work when they’re open.” James Dewar

“The mind that opens to a new idea never returns to its original size.” Albert Einstein

I have a secret. One that I’ve been keeping hidden out of fear that people would judge me. I realized that I feared that people would judge me because I judged myself, but my friends, the time has come and I’m ready to share…

I am on an online dating website.

(Pause for reaction)

What? Not the news you were expecting?

Not the juiciest news ever?

Well let me explain…have you ever said to yourself, “I would never do that in a million years!” I’m sure you have. Come, on. Wrack your brain a little if you have to. We all have something that we find scary or lame or not worthy of us trying. For me it was online dating.

(Disclaimer: Total honesty ahead and I don’t want to offend anyone in the online dating world. This was just my thought-process at the time.)

In my mind online dating was lame. It was for people who were probably socially awkward and were using it as a crutch for not having to meet people in real life.

Then I found out that my cool friend Kelly had a blog. And I started to read her blog. And I came across a funny, candid post about her foray into the online dating world. And I though, “Kelly is a young, cool, attractive chica and she’s online dating. Maybe I should check this out. Why am I so against it? And anyway, what have I got to lose?”

So I find a site that seems promising and I create a profile complete with pictures and a description of who I am. The messages start rolling in. I find one guy who is handsome, successful and seems promising. We go on some dates and we connect in an amazing way! I can hardly believe it. One thing leads to another and before you know it…We’re engaged!!!!

No! Nuh-uh, seriously!? I hope you didn’t fall for that. I’m sorry. Now I feel bad. I’ll bake you some cupcakes, k? 🙂

What did happen was that I did go on a few dates and I met some really amazing guys. A few have become good friends. I guess that now you’re asking, “If you didn’t find the love of your life then what’s the big deal? You’re still single and all you have to show for it is some new friends? Big wup.”

Well, yes big wup for me.

What I found out was:
1.) that if I am dissatisfied with an area of my life it is 100% up to me to change it. Before online dating I was feeling stuck. Like “Where have all the good men gone?” (Yes, I just quoted Bonnie Tyler.) Now I feel empowered in my love life. I created access to a range of guys and I can choose who seems genuine and attractive to me. And who knows, I may find a guy I want a relationship with. (Btw, you can totally tell who is in it for sex, who is just looking for fun and who is seriously looking for a relationship.) It helps you weed out the bullshit and find what you want which saves a lot of time in my opinion.

2.) If I was wrong about this, then what else might I be wrong about??? The experience literally opened up my mind. Now I am trying new things and questioning previous assumptions and it’s so exciting because I am learning something new about myself every day!

All from a website I thought was totally lame!

So I felt it was important to share this with you gals. Open your minds ladies. Take a chance and take charge of your love life! It feels great, I promise!

Love you 😉
Samantha

Mack-Lovin

“I  have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more Love.” Mother Teresa

“A  loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.” Thomas Carlyle

Hey peeps!

This weekend was my 25th birthday! I’m a quarter-of-a-century old and I’ve been innundated with so much overwhelming love lately that I thought, what a perfect subject to write about. Love is such an infinite topic, but I just want to focus on one aspect today. So what this post is not about: being single, relationship troubles, sex, waking up next to your room-mate’s ex-boyfriend with a nasty hang-over and a possible STD…forget all the boy-girl messy stuff for now. I’m sure I’ll get to that in another post…Eh, except the room-mate/STD thing. Don’t think I wanna touch that subject :/…What I want to delve into here is pure Love. Love in its most simple capacity.

I was listening to a podcast by self-transformation leader, Mastin Kipp (if you don’t know him you need to check him out at TheDailyLove.com) and he was interviewing Robert Holden, best-selling author and expert on self-acceptance. At one point Holden threw out this gem that stuck with me-“The way I feel is that the only way you’re ever going to love someone is if you’re willing to love everyone. If you’re not going to love everyone, you will not be able to love someone.” Blew. My. Mind. People.

Love is all-inclusive and we are all connected so it only makes sense that we need to Love each other.
Love is acceptance and Love is compassion and I don’t know about you, but I think we could use a hell of a lot more of those two things in our world right now.

Lov-ing is something we definitly need to do more of.

It seems so simple, but if you consider it, Loving is really a daring thing! To Love means being completely vulnerable. And to Love all the time is hella-scary! That’s why there’s such a natural tendancy to keep our hearts guarded. We feel we are protecting something. Occasionally we open our hearts to those we believe deserve it and to those we believe we can trust not to hurt us. Then we close right back up again when we are the least bit unsure. Think about how often you have truly opened your heart to someone. How many people? If you can count how many, that’s too few. What would happen if you opened your heart to everyone? What if you Love a person who has hurt you? What if you Love a complete stranger? Radical idea? Maybe.

The thing is, when you keep your heart in a constant state of openness, love, abundance and positive energy are free to flow into your life. The most exciting thing to me is this idea of abundance. Why do we “save” our love? What is this idea that we need to save our love for one person? Who sold us that idea!? Our Love isn’t on reserve! We don’t have a certain amount of Love in us and once it’s gone we can’t get any more. Just the opposite. Give all your Love away! Whore your Love out to everyone and see what happens. I promise you, extraordinary things will happen!

I, personally don’t want my heart to have a lock and key. I want my heart to be a giant fabulous party where everyone is welcome and the champagne is free-flowing!

I want to begin a project. I like to experiment on myself to see what works so I am going to practice this and if others want to join me I would be thrilled. I am going to practice loving EVERYONE I come in contact with. I am going to love my friends, co-workers, strangers I pass on the street, the lady invading my space on the subway…and I’m going to observe what happens. I’ve been playing with this a little bit lately and it’s already yielded some awesome results so I’m crazy excited to see what happens when I commit fully to it. I’m going to give it a year and I’m going to periodically take inventory and see what changes in my life.

The worst that could happen is nothing. People go on living their lives oblivious to my love for them, the world keeps spinning at the rate it’s always spun and I’ve wasted a year loving a whole lot of people. Doesn’t sound like much to lose. But, the amount there is to gain!? Well, that’s as infinite as the topic of Love.

Till next time!

Luv ya 😉
Sam